Monday 21 November 2016

What You Say or Write





What You Talk or Write on
                  Could Be For or Against

Mankind like to be free. He cuddles freedom like a new found bride. What he forget is that, in life, absolute freedom will be his albatross.
The mechanical contraptions could not have made good sense, if breaking mechanism is not in place. In this time and age, modern man feels he is not to be restricted. By this, he craves Liberty, then liberation, then freedom of expression.

Freedom for a Muslim is not absolute. Freedom is enjoyed with absolute sense of responsibility. You are responsible to your self no doubt. Where you are irresponsible, you and those around you suffers the consequence of your irresponsibility.

The man is a component of many parts. The part of the organs that controls the speeches of humankind are as many as the scientist could point at. The visible organs are the tongue, the teeth and the lips; all of these housed in the mouth.

To ensure the mouth is not "running" without control, the tongue is partially fixed to the floor of the mouth, gagged or imprisoned in a cage by the teeth and partially closed-in by the two soft lips.

It means that your personal effort is needed in order for the mouth to make speeches. Even then, the vocal is not automatic not minding the presence of various organ and its controls.

The Muslim is guided and advised to make correct speeches. He is told accounting for his saying is assured. He is responsible and accountable for what he says or do. We pray for guidance.

Belief and Guardian are Siemens twins:
"Allah is the guardian of those who believe. He brings them out of darkness into the light, and as to those who disbelieve, their guardians are Shaitans who take them out of light into the darkness; they are the inmates of the fire, in it they shall abide". Qur'an (2:257)

You Are Put on Notice:- The Prophet (s.a.w) said:
 "whatever I forbid you from doing, do not do them.
   Whatever I command you to do,
 Do as much of it as you are capable of doing"


A Muslim is constantly reminded to be alive to his responsibility; as it is a fact that what you talk or write about could be for or against you.

It Appears Easy:
Talking appears very easy. However when you watch a stammerer making effort at forming sentences, you come to realize that it is not so easy after all. This is how you will feel if you reflect. If you can reflect. Only a sober and guided person is capable of reflecting. We pray for continuous guardian. 

Simple Observation May Help:
If you take time to watch the dumb making greater effort at communicating, you then come to the conclusion that talking is not as simple as calling "Mama" or "Baba".

The Cost of Talking-The-Talk:
Let us now see how cost  or price could be attached to what comes out of your mouth. The cheapest of the network cost 20kobo per secs. That in Naira and kobo is #12:00 per min. #720 per hour 
#2880:00 per four hours. #20160 per week,
 #80,640:00 per month. #967,680:00 per year.
*using Nigeria Naira and Kobo as the currency of calculation*
That is using 4hr in a period of 24 hrs as bench mark!
You do not need to be an economist or financial analyst to acknowledge the fact that talk or talking the talk does not come cheap. 
All the network provider are charging you for is the technology provided by sciences and engineering. The tool of communication itself is a gift of and from Allah (s.w.t). In this case: tongue, teeth and the two lips.

The Phone used is not part of the cost yet. The price is according to the deepness of your purse and taste you have cultivated over time. 

Is it not better for you to reflect on the Creator of this fanciful being called Mankind and be thankful to Allah s.w.t

Worth of Your Speeches:
Let us now put value to your speeches. Of what value is what you say. To what benefit do you use the speech organs. For what purpose. If what you say brings trouble to the hearts, you have a burden. If what you say is injurious to the people, uh, you have a problem.

There are people that will be very busy at either abusing someone, cursing or gossiping. The talking some people get involved in destroys the people and society.  Of what value is your speech(s) to yourself, family, friend or Nation. None!

As a Believer: You Should Know:
The number One article of Faith is to belief in Allah, the Omnipotent, Omniscient etc. as well as belief in the Messengers of Allah.  
For a Muslim, it is an article of Faith to belief. Belief in the existence of Angels is a cardinal faith. The Angels carry out the order of their Maker without hesitation.


Sheikh Bilal Philips( May Allah accept his works) is worth quoting here.
"When you open your mouth to talk, 
choose the very same words that you would use if Allah is near you. Because He is!"

You and Your Soul: Allah is in-between:
"And We have already created man and know what his soul whispers to him, and We are closer to him than [his] jugular vein." [50:16]

If you are aware of this, will it benefit you to spend your entire time to be abusing people, gossip or to slander. When you realize the fact that you will be called to account for what you say, you will use the lock provided to control your speech; the teeth and the lips. Uh!


The Essence of Life is for you to be mindful of your actions.

At all time, it is better for you to remember that:
What You Talk or Write on
                  Could Be For or Against
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Saturday 5 November 2016

Going Into Marriage part 2










Going Into Marriage?
                    A good way to start is....   
                                   Never Hate Each Other

                Get Old in Your Marriage
"There is no shame in growing old married as the other alternative is to kill the marriage within your house". 

"Essence of Life" is dedicated to those in marriage, thinking of getting married, and about to get married. 

When your perception of life is a trouble-free and your perception of married life has a glassy romantic glaze, am begins to pity a character such as that. Pity is the adjective used for want of a better word!

A poetic statement: 
                Part 1 
Marriage is not meant for stupid people.
But stupid people get married anyway
Marriage is not for fools
But foolish people get married anyway
Marriage is not for the silly ones
Silly ones get married anyway
But I tell the intending couple.......
Happy marriage is not meant to be a long dance to the blue Danube
But you can make your marriage a lullaby for you, yours  and the household
                   Part 2
There are things you must do
There are things you must see 
There are thing you will see and pretend not to see
There things you will hear and pretend you did not hear
Winning argument will not give you happiness
This is because
Lasting and enduring married life
Is not a fluke
It is work in progress

                  Part 3
Wedding ceremony is cost expended, 
Romance in marriage is drama acted, but 
Happiness in marriage cannot be bought, but 
it is also not free of cost
Marriage is like a bed
As you lay it so you lie on it
Make your bed clean and neat, sweat dream become yours and for yours truly
Marriage,
  It is not meant for the arrogant too. The stupid and arrogant I tell you will make a mess of boiled egg.

For a marriage to breakup or breakdown, one or both of the partners is either arrogant, foolish or arrogantly foolish.

What is obvious:
It does not matter whether the man is good or the lady is nice, a stupid husband will mess up a clever wife and an arrogant wife will mess up a patient husband. 

Way Out and Maintaining Balance:
When the wife notices the husband is angry, let her appease him
When the husband notices his wife is not pleased with him, he should appease her.

That to me is the reason for coming together. So said one of our noble predecessor 

With The Name of Allah The Eternally Merciful The Especially Merciful 
Living in Harmony:
Never hate each other; never be jealous of each other; never think ill of each other; never boycott each other.  Always remain brothers/sisters unto each other, o servants of Allah. (Muslim)

High Expectation:
The families expects so much from each spouse
The friends both wife and husband expects so much
The truth is that it is when both couple are stable the family is said to have built a home. Expectations of people should not be a priority

The Spouses:
The couple rightly so expects so much from the other; Rightly so. 
What couple in marriage need to know is that favors from Allah are not evenly distributed. The need for coming together is to compliment one another especially in terms of needs or lacks, and this needs or lacks varies from time to time.
Placing material procession on the front burner
Eventually burn the marriage to ashes

Patience and Tolerance are not evenly available virtues:
While some are easy to please, some are difficult to please while some are very difficult to please
While some are reasonable, some are very sensible and some are very sensitive 
The most dangerous a relationship is with a person that is easy to anger and difficult to appease
Choose wisely and pray fervently
Marriage is a potpourri of discoveries. In marriage, there is no surprises

To those that care to listen to voice of reason, being married and remaining married is "work in progress"

Health, wealth, and longevity are as available as Allah (Majesty is His) Wills it and apportion it.

The most intelligent of the two spouse does not determine whom will be financially up

Neither is it the most apparently healthy will be the last to depart the earth, uh, but truth must be told for those who cares to listen.
These are things Allah determines as He pleases.

While you are alive:
The duty of one is the right of the other.
The right of one is therefore the duty of the other

When the expectation is within reason and reliance is on Allah
Your family operates on autopilot whether in scarcity or surplus

Jealousy / Anger is a set back
"Beware of jealousy or anger
For verily it destroy good deeds the way fire destroy dried grass"

What You Need Remember:
"To Allah belongs the dominion of the heavens and the earth 
And Allah has power over all things" (3:189)

The Couple's Prayer among other prayers:
"Our Lord give us in this world 
That which is good 
And in the hereafter, that which is good
And protect us from the fire of hell" (2:201)

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Again The Prophet Speaks:
 "A pious wife who helps you in religious and worldly affair is better than all treasures" Sahih Al-Jami 5355

Allah says:
The man is the pillar of the woman
This is an enormous responsibility placed on the shoulder of the husband. Taking decision when it matters is included.
The essence of life is for you to know that when going into marriage make up your mind to....
Never hate each other; never be jealous of each other; never think ill of each other; never boycott each other.  

If any of this is about to happen or has happened seek help.

At the end of the day:
People may give you great advice, but ultimately, only Allah gives perfect Guidance.


Thanks to Allah for guidance, continuous blessing and peace to the best of mankind and I pray it extend to the sincere followers of the Deen till the day of kiyyamah 

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